Four Ways to Look at Hurt

There are four ways to look at hurt:

1. Someone who has hurt you is pained. They have scars and are unhappy. They can only share what they have. They are hurt and they are sharing the hurt with you. You think they are doing it purposely, but, in fact it is because they do not have happiness inside them. They are wounded. What is required for a wounded person? Compassion. You have to be compassionate to those who hurt you, because they are hurt and wounded themselves.

2. Those who are causing hurt to you are ignorant. They don’t know that their actions are hurting others. They are ignorant and arrogant. You can only feel sorry for them and hope that someday they will become intelligent. Wish for them to be more sensitive.

3. It is just karma. You had to get this hurt and if not this person then someone else would have given it to you. We must have caused some hurt to someone in the past and Nature is bringing it back to us now. When you know that it’s just karma being repaid, you feel settled.

4. It is being done to make you strong. Nature is bringing this to you so that you become strong, so that you discover strength and power within you.

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2 Responses to Four Ways to Look at Hurt

  1. soma says:

    thanx. i follow the 3rd way. it really settles the mind to peace and then happiness comes back. jgd.

  2. esquire says:

    Sama, Dana, Beda and danda are well known principles in man management. Is there anything beyond this? I believe this is prevalent even today in our society. But if an arrogant person is causing hurt to someone who is dearer, that becomes a greatest tragedy.
    Reasoning and wishing does not help since both the hurt and the hurted are suffering.

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